Today we'll look at another area that is allowing abortion, not families, to thrive: habitual or addictive strongholds.
Let's look again at 2 Corinthians 10:3, 4, 5:
King James Bible
For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war after the flesh: (For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds;) Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;
In particular, I want to look again at the word translated "strongholds" (Ochuroma a castle, stronghold, fortress, fastness; anything on which one relies, of the arguments and reasonings by which a disputant endeavours to fortify his opinion and defend it against his opponent) and the word translated "imaginations" (Logismos: a reckoning, computation; a reasoning: such as is hostile to the Christian faith; a judgment, decision: such as conscience passes).
Think of a stronghold as an entrenched idea that is holding the person prisoner. And we know how addiction to drugs or alcohol can keep a person prisoner. And the idea of a sex addiction has been creeping into people's awareness. I'd like to look at this idea of sexual addiction a bit.
An addiction, by definition, can never satisfy; it only drives the person for more of the thing he or she is addicted to.
I'll go to one of the blog posts that brings my blogs the most page views: How to induce a miscarriage herbally (and safely). If you read the comments there, you don't get a picture of women leading rich, satisfying lives:
I am almost 44 and going through a divorce and custody battle over 2 little girls. In a flash with a man I conceived (I think he sneezed in my direction) and cannot believe I am going through this at my age!
We all know you don't get pregnant from getting sneezed on. This woman had sex with a man she had so little relationship with that she described the act as him sneezing in her direction.
I was at a friends party on the 16 june and i passed out waking up to my friends asking me if i remebered last nigh. Well apparently I had sex with someone and he said he does not remember if he wore a condom...and i dont even remeber at all.....so yeah I am married and stationed overseas with my husband who i love to death and i cant tell him this....
Getting drunk until you pass out and being raped while unconscious.
my ex-boyfriend is abusive and i refuse to carry his child simply b/c i will be stuck with him 4 the rest of my life! i already have a daughter and i never want to give him the chance to start hitting her. so im not having this DAMN BABY!
Sucked into a relationship with an abusive man, to the point where she's still having sex with him even though he's hurting her and a threat to her daughter.
But i havent taken a pregnancy test because i live with my boyfriend and he keeps a close eye on me. He is very abusive and controling and i lack going anywhere outside of the yard.
Another woman stuck in an abusive relationship.
I shouldn't have had sex if I didn't want to get preggers, but there you go and here I am!
Her biological drives overrode the thinking, choosing part of her and she ended up pregnant when she didn't want to be.
Here we have a man chiming in on behalf of another sad woman:
Ive been seeing a very nice lady and ofc have had sex. She is getting her 3rd divorce and all of them have been abusive :( . She already has 6 children and dont need another one while she is going through her divorce. Im divorced with 3 children and a grandson of my own.
A woman who seems to be addicted to relationships with bad men.
I am in a very stressed relatioship with one child and I recently found out i was pregnant. I don't want to have anther child. Before I could explain this to my boyfriend, he told everyone. I feel stuck. I don't want everyone to know that I had an abortion so I deceided to use the vitamin C at first then I incorparated Dong Quai but stopped only after two doses. I found this website and I feel encouraged. I have continued the Vitamin C and just started the parsley insert and will drink the infusion soon. Please pary for me and my family. I am a student in college and workk full time. I don't spend enough time with my first child.
Again, sex in what she knows is an untenable situation. She knows it will lead to heartache. But she can't see living without the sex so she copes again and again with the consequences.
And this is just one site. Read prochoice sites and you will see the common thread of women in miserable, unsatisfying relationships, or no relationships at all, but they're unable to hold back from submitting sexually to their urges. They're trapped in a relentless cycle of sex that brings no intimacy, only panic and stress, increased risk of STDs and the long-range risks of these (including cancer and death), pregnancy scares and pregnancies they don't feel they can cope with.
The picture is even more bleak if you go behind the doors of an abortion clinic. I listened to the lamentations of abortion clinic nurses who were unable to help their patients abstain from sex while healing from their abortions. These patients were in "relationships" -- I hate to dignify their situations by using such a word -- with men who would not tolerate abstaining from sex while the women recovered. Not taking "no" for an answer when seeking sex from a woman has a name: RAPE. These women were submitting to unwanted sex -- unprotected sex, since the men in question refused to wear condoms -- regularly and frequently. Men who were walking petri dishes of STDs, since they were also having unprotected intercourse with other women. And it never occurred to the nurses caring for these women -- and I believe the nurses really did care -- to refer to rape crisis, to a battered women's shelter, to in any way suggest that these women deserved better in their lives.
Which shows how the sexual addiction stronghold is a societal one as well as a personal one. Our society teaches in a thousand ways, some subtle and some blatant, that you are nobody unless somebody's screwing you. Better a dissatisfying, shallow, pointless sexual encounter -- one that leaves you emotionally damaged, infected with an incurable disease, and pregnant with no supportive partner -- than no sexual encounter at all. We live in a society where the greatest compliment you can pay a person is not to say that he or she is strong, diligent, virtuous, patient, pleasant, prudent, or anything else of any actual value. The greatest complement is to say somebody is "hot" -- that their very presence incites lust. Is it any wonder that even believers have sexual addiction strongholds in their personal lives?
If we step back, we can see the handiwork of the Father of Lies. Satan teaches that sexual licentiousness is "healthy" -- when even a cursory glance reveals a world of STDs. Satan teaches that it is possible -- nay, even desirable -- to totally divorce sexuality from procreation and pair bonding. But it's the very idea that sex and procreation can be separated that leads to problems with side effects from contraceptives, and to unintended pregnancies -- which have increased, not decreased, since the contraceptive culture has become entrenched in society. Satan teaches that sexual restraint is impossible -- yet everybody at some point practices it. Those reading this blog are not indulging their sexual appetites at the moment. It's possible to live a lifetime of moments in which the sexual appetites are put aside and more appropriate urges satisfied -- the desire to eat, sleep, learn, play, accomplish, and love.
Until we battle spiritually with the strongholds of sexual addiction in society and in our own lives, we will continue to see broken hearts and broken bodies. We need to first of all be removing these strongholds in our own lives. Are we using sex to try to fill a void that it simply can't fill? Or are we being chaste, whether married or single? (For to be chaste is not to be celibate -- to be chaste is to put sexuality in its proper context, which is different for a single person than for a married person.) Are we teaching those in our churches how to be chaste? Are we building a society that values people for something other than that they incite lust?
Then, having removed the beams from our own eyes, we need to frequently and do spiritual battle against these societal strongholds through prayer. Develop the habit of praying when presented with the omnipresent signs of sexual strongholds in our society.