How having the baby pulled out in bloody chunks is supposed to be an improvement on that bewilders me. What the hell have we come to, when we consider torturing a baby to death to be more merciful than just enveloping that baby in love for as long as we can? What the hell is wrong with us as a society?
Of course, the man blames the prolifers for the fact that people "have to come here" -- that there's no place else to get your dying baby killed. Well, no. Because having your dying baby killed is not a medical need. It's something we've abandoned families to, either because we're too lazy or too uncaring to help them through their difficult time. We'd rather just make it seem to go away. Shunt her off to an abortion mill, and everybody else in her life can pretend the baby never happened. But she and her husband get to remember for the rest of their lives that they had their dying baby ripped to shreds as a purported act of love. He blames them for how terrible -- how understandably terrible -- he and his wife feel. It is, he rightly points out, the worst day of their lives. Their baby is about to be put to death gruesomely -- because some doctor told them this would be best. And for the rest of their lives they're going to have to know that they chose dismemberment for the child. Once the shock of the initial diagnosis and the rush to abort wears off, the shock and horror of what they did will still be there. The doctors who referred them won't be there for the pain. The people who facilitated and performed the abortion won't be there for the pain. Just this couple, who will have not one single comforting memory of their child, thanks to our "progressive" attitude of "better to just get it over with" when "it" is a child's life.
We ought not as a society to be putting parents in that situation in the first place. Perinatal hospice referral, not abortion referral, should be the standard of care.
So prejudiced or lazy or uncaring doctors shunted this woman off to an abortion clinic, to have her loved and wanted baby killed by the same man who has trained himself to think of babies like hers as nothing but valueless medical waste.
Now, that said, the prolifers outside needed a better approach. "Ask us about other ways."
I can't judge the prolifers for not being prepared. After all, abortion for an actual diagnosed and verified fatal abnormality is so rare that it's highly unlikely that even the most steadfast prolifer outside a standard abortion mill will ever meet a woman aborting under that circumstance. Just as I was not prepared when the man came out and yelled at me that his wife was having an abortion because she had cancer. Had I been prepared, I could have reached in a bag and said, "Would you like information on chemotherapy regimens that are safe during pregnancy, and oncologists who are comfortable working with pregnant patients?" Instead, I was just struck dumb. With a little preparation, I could have offered to drive out to Hershey Medical Center and do some research. I could (SHOULD) have had the name and number of a prolife ob/gyn who would refer the woman for real care.
But now with the internet, we can all be prepared. We can all know that these situations might occur, and be ready to deal with them. There is awesome training available, from intense sidewalk counseling training, to just being trained to answer, "I'm only here to pray for the women and children. Here's a number to call with any questions."
Watch and listen to the Life Report episode here.
Their next episode will deal with specifically that terrible situation.